It’s a fact, most of us feel anger, resentment and fear on a daily basis. There are healthy ways to lessen their harmful effect on us and the people we encounter (pets too). It should be noted that I am not a therapist; only someone who has experienced it along with the following exercises.
First of all don’t beat yourself up for feeling this way. It is natural. The answer isn’t to eliminate them, it’s how we respond to them. If you can accept that; you’re halfway there.
Holding on to anger, resentment and fear too long is so very harmful to our emotional, physical and spiritual health. I learned some time ago that resentments in particular are much more detrimental and poisonous to the owner. The other people usually have no idea. While therapy may be appropriate I want to offer a list of healthy and often much more immediate relief.
Even a short break from the distress is most welcome.
Try these exercises to get relief from feeling angry, resentful and fearful…
- Sit comfortably, close your eyes and focus on long slow breaths for as little as 30 seconds. Of course longer is better. This can briefly take you away from the negative thoughts. Identify the location in your body that carries the stress. Breathe into that area. Repeat as needed. The beauty is you can make this happen while you’re stopped at a red light.
- Grab a piece of paper and without judgement write down in incomplete sentences or just one word the source of distress. This moves it out of the toxic mind. Determine the validity of the disturbing thought. Next to each write the word “REAL” or “IMAGINED”. (Is it real or fake news?) Remember, our minds can lie to us. Thus conjuring the saying, “We are our own worst enemy.” This exercise may eliminate feeling overwhelmed and many of the items on your list. When complete symbolically destroy the lies and discard.
- Consider your life in general or reflect about today. Write down what you have to be GRATEFUL for? For example in no specific order.
- I have a roof over my head with running water and indoor plumbing
- I have food in my refrigerator
- Money in the bank
- My Children
- My significant other
- My Car is there for me
- My pet
- I live in a free country
- I love my music
- I love my sense of humor
- My friends
- My body allows me to be mobile, dance and play sports.
See if you notice a shift. This isn’t one and done. Repeat from scratch each time. I hope these few exercises give you a lighter and more satisfying presence.