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Are You Tired of Feeling Angry, Resentful and Fearful?

It’s a fact, most of us feel anger, resentment and fear on a daily basis. There are healthy ways to lessen their harmful effect on us and the people we encounter (pets too). It should be noted that I am not a therapist; only someone who has experienced it along with the following exercises.

Frustrated guyFirst of all don’t beat yourself up for feeling this way. It is natural. The answer isn’t to eliminate them, it’s how we respond to them. If you can accept that; you’re halfway there.

Holding on to anger, resentment and fear too long is so very harmful to our emotional, physical and spiritual health. I learned some time ago that resentments in particular are much more detrimental and poisonous to the owner. The other people usually have no idea.  While therapy may be appropriate I want to offer a list of healthy and often much more immediate relief. 

Even a short break from the distress is most welcome.

Try these exercises to get relief from feeling angry, resentful and fearful…

  1. Sit comfortably, close your eyes and focus on long slow breaths for as little as 30 seconds. Of course longer is better. This can briefly take you away from the negative thoughts. Identify the location in your body that carries the stress. Breathe into that area. Repeat as needed. The beauty is you can make this happen while you’re stopped at a red light.
  2. Grab a piece of paper and without judgement write down in incomplete sentences or just one word the source of distress. This moves it out of the toxic mind. Determine the validity of the disturbing thought. Next to each write the word “REAL”  or “IMAGINED”. (Is it real or fake news?) Remember, our minds can lie to us. Thus conjuring the saying, “We are our own worst enemy.” This exercise may eliminate feeling overwhelmed and many of the items on your list. When complete symbolically destroy the lies and discard.
  3. Consider your life in general or reflect about today. Write down what you have to be GRATEFUL for?  For example in no specific order.
    • I have a roof over my head with running water and indoor plumbing
    • I have food in my refrigerator
    • Money in the bank
    • My ChildrenParent Child
    • My significant other
    • My Car is there for me
    • My pet
    • I live in a free country
    • I love my music
    • I love my sense of humor
    • My friends
    • My body allows me to be mobile, dance and play sports.

See if you notice a shift. This isn’t one and done. Repeat from scratch each time. I hope these few exercises give you a lighter and more satisfying presence.

Here are Simply Smashing Rage Release Room, we offer you a bit of respite from feeling angry, resentful and fearful. Click here to book a room and come and smash your frustrations away. 

 

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Why are We so Angry & What Can We Do About it?

In an article on StatesboroHerald.com, writer 

The shooting of a U.S. congressman this summer by a man described as “always angry” reminded Americans that while anger is a biological necessity, it can rapidly morph from a life-preserving force to a deadly one.

Unrestrained anger causes some to murder people they profess to love, such as the Draper man who shot Memorez Rackley and her son. It compels people to set police cars on fire, to chase drivers who accidentally cut them off in traffic, and to pelt store clerks with avocados. It causes politicians to body slam reporters, as happened in Montana in May.

And it’s anger, not religion or politics, that is the root cause of terrorism across the globe, says one neuroscientist who has studied why anger causes people to become violent.

“It’s a huge problem, and it’s a growing problem,” said R. Douglas Fields of Bethesda, Maryland, author of “Why We Snap, Understanding the Rage Circuit in Your Brain.”

In a survey conducted by Esquire and NBC News last year, roughly half of Americans said they’re angrier than they used to be, and nearly 7 out of 10 said they’re angered by something in the news at least once a day. The National Institutes of Health says more than 16 million Americans have a condition called intermittent explosive disorder, in which people get angry out of proportion with the circumstance…

Why we get angry

Anger begins with a threat, real or imagined, that is detected by a part of the brain called the amygdala. Only about a half-inch long, the amygdala is on high alert even when we’re busy or distracted, and it’s so sensitive that even a picture of person who is frowning can set off a chain of reactions designed to protect us and our families from harm.

Adrenalin, cortisol and testosterone flood the body, giving us energy and focus, and fueling aggression. Blood races through the body, our breathing grows shallow and fast, and our heart pounds, preparing us for a fight. Even our facial expressions — narrowed eyes and a scowl — warn other people to back off.

The rapid-fire impulse to react to serious threats is what enabled human beings to survive in ancient times, said Fields, the neuroscientist in Maryland.

Does a Rage Room Work?

Why are We so Angry & What Can We Do About it? …if you’re struggling with anger issues of your own, stay away from other angry people, particularly on the internet. One 2013 study found that people who read online rants for five minutes became angrier themselves.

For anger that has another underlying cause, such as depression, a class of drugs known as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (such as Prozac) can help, as does cognitive behavioral therapy, Potegal said.

If all fails, try an anger room, which is safe, and if nothing else, entertaining. At Tantrums in Houston, Baker will custom-design a room with images of things, or even people, who make you mad. In November, she prepared one room with mannequins that looked like candidates Hillary Clinton and Trump. Everything was smashed by the time the customer left the room.

Well, we’ve got a Rage Room coming soon in Tempe. It’ll be a fun place where you can let go and smash your frustrations away.

However, not all anger issues can be fixed in a Rage Room. With that in mind, we’ve complied a list of local Phoenix Area Stress and Anger Management Therapists. The list is not conclusive, it’s random, and we don’t endorse any one on it, nor are we affiliated with any of them. If you’d like to be added to the list, please provide the name of your clinic and website in the comments below.

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Cory McCloskey of Fox 10 Phoenix at Simply Smashing Rage Room

Fox 10 Phoenix’s Morning show weather guy, Cory McCloskey, tried out the latest craze in the Valley, Simply Smashing Rage Room.

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What’s up with the Latest in Anger Management: The Rage Room

Call it what you wish: Anger Room, Rage Room, Breaking Room, Smashing Room – it’s the newest craze. They are in Toronto, Atlanta, Dallas, Singapore, Hong Kong, the UK and soon in Tempe, AZ!

This segment from CBS NY News highlights the Dallas Anger Room. She’s planning to open in NYC.

So, is an Anger or Rage Room for you?

If you work in one of these high-stress jobs – absolutely! We’ll be open most evenings and weekends so you can come to a safe place to lose control.

If you’re a college student faced with a demanding class schedule and exams, come on in to let go of your frustrations. Why do you think we’re opening in Tempe?

If you’re a mom or a teacher dealing with rowdy kids day in and day out, this is the place to release all your stress. You can even have a party with your friends!

We’re opening soon in Tempe, so join our list to get a special invite to the grand opening! 

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The Best Way to Relieve Aggression: The Rage Room

You’re mad enough to hit someone. Go to a Rage Room. 

You’re frustrated with something you wish were happening but it’s not.
What happens when things don’t go the way you’d like?

Take your frustrations, aggressions, stress, anger, rage out in a room where you can go and break stuff.

Check out the Rage Room in Toronto….

Simply Smashing Rage Room is based on this one in Toronto, but it will look a little different. Check out the smashables and tools of destruction here. 

We’re opening soon in Tempe! Join our email list to get a special invite! 

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How to Handle Anger: 5 Dos and Don’ts [Infographic]

We all get angry at people, situations, the news, politicians and life in general. How you handle your anger makes the difference. There are some things that are beyond your control and you have to face it. But when your anger is with a person, there are a few things you can do: both good and bad.

Here are 5 Dos and Don’ts from CounselingRecovery.com on how to handle your anger.

How to Handle Anger: 5 Dos and Don'ts {infographic]

We can absolutely help with the #4 “Do”! A Rage Room is a healthy outlet to express your frustrations. It’s a room where you can lose control by breaking stuff.

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6 Steps to Solving Anger Problems [Infographic]

Anger is unavoidable. However, there are ways to avoid and solve anger issues. I mean really, what can you resolve by being angry?

Alright, in today’s world, you can’t help but get angry at many things especially people. But, if you think about it, you really need relationships both at home and at work. Stuff’s going to happen and it’s all about how you handle it.

Here are 6 Steps to Solve Anger Issues:

  1. Get your ready for a talk.
  2. Say what the problem is.
  3. Listen to the other person.
  4. Explain how you feel.
  5. Talk about ideas about solving the problem.
  6. Choose an idea to try.

Ways to Solve Anger Problems

Infographic from FreeSpiritPress.com

Compromise isn’t easy – for either person. Moreover, if you have to give in or sacrifice something to salvage the situation, that hurts.

Holding it in is not going to help you neither is yelling at the person with which you have an issue. You don’t want unresolved anger.

Your resolve is going to a Rage Room – a safe place to lose control.

Luckily, there’s one opening up very soon in Tempe. Click here to get on our list to get a special invite to the Grand Opening. 

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Anger and Depression: What You Need to Know

It is estimated that over 16 million people in the U.S. suffer from depression.

In many instances, depression is an anger turned inward upon oneself. I have suffered from different levels of depression throughout my life. Often it originates with anger focused unknowingly at myself in a subconscious manner. I find again and again that when I feel depressed, anger is one of the last things I recognize as a major contributor.

Growing up I learned that anger was not an acceptable feeling to have and certainly not to express it towards authority figures including parents without having them quickly extinguished. Thus I kept it away like a stranger who is not to be named or trusted. I thought my depression and anxiety was due solely to sadness or a fear. Now I understand that anger is a normal emotion that left unattended and unexpressed slowly but surely beats me down. It’s a negative energy that has to go somewhere. Where will it go? Do I unwittingly focus it at others creating internal or external havoc causing disease of body and spirit?

Anger and depressionNow I know there is a choice to deal with it in a healthier way. I have no desire to turn my anger on other people, pets or myself. It cannot be overstated how much unresolved anger fosters remarkable acts of violence on our planet. I’m hard pressed to find an example of terror not fueled by intense anger and rage by people who have no clue how to exorcise it.

There are healthy ways to expel this negative energy. I’ve found exercise, yoga, meditation and journaling for example. Although awkward at first, rolling up the windows in the car and yelling and screaming helps. Screaming into a pillow works as well. However, I wouldn’t recommend screaming into a pillow at Bed, Bath and Beyond. That was embarrassing.

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Today there is an unconventional and healthy way to let off steam. Rage Rooms are popping up all over the world. Is there anyone who hasn’t wanted to break a dish or throw a glass against the wall as an immediate outlet? What if there was a safe place to do just that and then some?

If you’re like me, technology is a huge source of frustration. That’s why in addition to breaking glass, plates and lamps, I can take a bat, golf club or crow bar and energetically demolish a printer, computer keyboard or TV with permission and acceptable abandon. Afterwards, there is a healthy exhaustion followed by a lightness created by spewing this fervor upon inanimate objects.

That’s where “Simply Smashing” comes in. The Phoenix Valley’s first Rage Room! Opening November 2017 in Tempe.

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