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Are You Tired of Feeling Angry, Resentful and Fearful?

It’s a fact, most of us feel anger, resentment and fear on a daily basis. There are healthy ways to lessen their harmful effect on us and the people we encounter (pets too). It should be noted that I am not a therapist; only someone who has experienced it along with the following exercises.

Frustrated guyFirst of all don’t beat yourself up for feeling this way. It is natural. The answer isn’t to eliminate them, it’s how we respond to them. If you can accept that; you’re halfway there.

Holding on to anger, resentment and fear too long is so very harmful to our emotional, physical and spiritual health. I learned some time ago that resentments in particular are much more detrimental and poisonous to the owner. The other people usually have no idea.  While therapy may be appropriate I want to offer a list of healthy and often much more immediate relief. 

Even a short break from the distress is most welcome.

Try these exercises to get relief from feeling angry, resentful and fearful…

  1. Sit comfortably, close your eyes and focus on long slow breaths for as little as 30 seconds. Of course longer is better. This can briefly take you away from the negative thoughts. Identify the location in your body that carries the stress. Breathe into that area. Repeat as needed. The beauty is you can make this happen while you’re stopped at a red light.
  2. Grab a piece of paper and without judgement write down in incomplete sentences or just one word the source of distress. This moves it out of the toxic mind. Determine the validity of the disturbing thought. Next to each write the word “REAL”  or “IMAGINED”. (Is it real or fake news?) Remember, our minds can lie to us. Thus conjuring the saying, “We are our own worst enemy.” This exercise may eliminate feeling overwhelmed and many of the items on your list. When complete symbolically destroy the lies and discard.
  3. Consider your life in general or reflect about today. Write down what you have to be GRATEFUL for?  For example in no specific order.
    • I have a roof over my head with running water and indoor plumbing
    • I have food in my refrigerator
    • Money in the bank
    • My ChildrenParent Child
    • My significant other
    • My Car is there for me
    • My pet
    • I live in a free country
    • I love my music
    • I love my sense of humor
    • My friends
    • My body allows me to be mobile, dance and play sports.

See if you notice a shift. This isn’t one and done. Repeat from scratch each time. I hope these few exercises give you a lighter and more satisfying presence.

Here are Simply Smashing Rage Release Room, we offer you a bit of respite from feeling angry, resentful and fearful. Click here to book a room and come and smash your frustrations away. 

 

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How You can Smash away Anger and Frustrations in a Rage Room

What happens after someone smashes away anger and frustrations in a Rage Room?
Releasing anger and frustrations in a rage room

“That’s Amazing!”

“That was Awesome!”

These are the exclamations expressed by over 95% of the people who exit the rage room after a 25 minute session of breaking stuff.

At Simply Smashing, “a Rage Release Room” we offer recreational and therapeutic destruction of inanimate objects. Two-thirds come in just to have a great time doing what they’ve always wanted to do without consequence. The rest come in to alleviate all levels of stress from a bad day at work to a tragedy in their life. Therapists and life coaches often come in to let go of depression, anxieties, anger and frustrations. Over 60% of our patrons are women.

I had no idea how profound an experience this would be for so many people.

I’d like to share 2 stories that made a huge impression on  me…

A woman came in with her 8 year old son twice. Just 6 weeks after his father was diagnosed with cancer, he passed away. The boy was so angry and confused — pivoting between depression and acting out. Mom was dealing with her own grief and wanted to do anything she could to help her son. 

Because Simply Smashing is “a safe place to lose control”, they yelled, screamed and even cried together. They finished and came out with a huge satisfied smile on their faces.

Facing Cancer Anger and Frustrations

A woman of 28, wife, mother of two young children, found out she had untreatable, terminal cancer. She made an appointment for her and her best friend from back east, who she just picked up at the airport. Immediately afterwards, they were planning to drive up the west coast to spend what was most likely their last time together. She was handling things with so much courage and acceptance. She said the silver lining was that now she could spend the little time she had left with the people she loved, doing things she always wanted to do but had put off.

I had the honor to see what they wrote on the blackboard to cast off the remaining anger that was not welcome on their quest. It is very touching and inspiring.

Simply Smashing Rage Room Blackboard of anger

Rage Room participants write about their anger and frustrations on the blackboard.

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The Best Way to Relieve Aggression: The Rage Room

You’re mad enough to hit someone. Go to a Rage Room. 

You’re frustrated with something you wish were happening but it’s not.
What happens when things don’t go the way you’d like?

Take your frustrations, aggressions, stress, anger, rage out in a room where you can go and break stuff.

Check out the Rage Room in Toronto….

Simply Smashing Rage Room is based on this one in Toronto, but it will look a little different. Check out the smashables and tools of destruction here. 

We’re opening soon in Tempe! Join our email list to get a special invite! 

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How to Handle Anger: 5 Dos and Don’ts [Infographic]

We all get angry at people, situations, the news, politicians and life in general. How you handle your anger makes the difference. There are some things that are beyond your control and you have to face it. But when your anger is with a person, there are a few things you can do: both good and bad.

Here are 5 Dos and Don’ts from CounselingRecovery.com on how to handle your anger.

How to Handle Anger: 5 Dos and Don'ts {infographic]

We can absolutely help with the #4 “Do”! A Rage Room is a healthy outlet to express your frustrations. It’s a room where you can lose control by breaking stuff.

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10 Alternatives to saying “Calm Down” if Facing an Angry Person

Disagreements in life are unavoidable and if things aren’t going your way, you have a right to be angry. However, when one person is more upset than another, saying “calm down” may be futile.

Here are 10 alternatives to saying “calm down” when facing an angry person:

  1. If you’re having a difficult time, let me help you.
  2. Take a deep breath and count to 10.
  3. I know that’s frustrating, let’s figure this out.
  4. You’re angry, how does your body feel?
  5. Here, squeeze my hand.
  6. How about a hug?
  7. Why don’t we try and fix the problem together?
  8. If you’re feeling bad, tell me about it.
  9. If you feel like hitting something (or someone), punch this pillow.
  10. Since all that didn’t work, let’s go to a RAGE ROOM!

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