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Are You Tired of Feeling Angry, Resentful and Fearful?

It’s a fact, most of us feel anger, resentment and fear on a daily basis. There are healthy ways to lessen their harmful effect on us and the people we encounter (pets too). It should be noted that I am not a therapist; only someone who has experienced it along with the following exercises.

Frustrated guyFirst of all don’t beat yourself up for feeling this way. It is natural. The answer isn’t to eliminate them, it’s how we respond to them. If you can accept that; you’re halfway there.

Holding on to anger, resentment and fear too long is so very harmful to our emotional, physical and spiritual health. I learned some time ago that resentments in particular are much more detrimental and poisonous to the owner. The other people usually have no idea.  While therapy may be appropriate I want to offer a list of healthy and often much more immediate relief. 

Even a short break from the distress is most welcome.

Try these exercises to get relief from feeling angry, resentful and fearful…

  1. Sit comfortably, close your eyes and focus on long slow breaths for as little as 30 seconds. Of course longer is better. This can briefly take you away from the negative thoughts. Identify the location in your body that carries the stress. Breathe into that area. Repeat as needed. The beauty is you can make this happen while you’re stopped at a red light.
  2. Grab a piece of paper and without judgement write down in incomplete sentences or just one word the source of distress. This moves it out of the toxic mind. Determine the validity of the disturbing thought. Next to each write the word “REAL”  or “IMAGINED”. (Is it real or fake news?) Remember, our minds can lie to us. Thus conjuring the saying, “We are our own worst enemy.” This exercise may eliminate feeling overwhelmed and many of the items on your list. When complete symbolically destroy the lies and discard.
  3. Consider your life in general or reflect about today. Write down what you have to be GRATEFUL for?  For example in no specific order.
    • I have a roof over my head with running water and indoor plumbing
    • I have food in my refrigerator
    • Money in the bank
    • My ChildrenParent Child
    • My significant other
    • My Car is there for me
    • My pet
    • I live in a free country
    • I love my music
    • I love my sense of humor
    • My friends
    • My body allows me to be mobile, dance and play sports.

See if you notice a shift. This isn’t one and done. Repeat from scratch each time. I hope these few exercises give you a lighter and more satisfying presence.

Here are Simply Smashing Rage Release Room, we offer you a bit of respite from feeling angry, resentful and fearful. Click here to book a room and come and smash your frustrations away. 

 

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Anger Management for the Modern World

Do you have difficulty turning off your mind? Is your head spinning especially when you’re trying to sleep? You are not alone my friends.

Stress, anger, anguish and anxiety are becoming a constant source of pain and discomfort.

Is it work, family, finances, terrorism or politics? Ever since the election campaigns and subsequent outcome, many of us are tired of hearing about it but, it is pervasive.

Stress, anger, anguish and anxiety are becoming a constant source of pain and discomfort. Is it work, family, finances, terrorism or politics? Ever since the election campaigns and subsequent outcome, many of us are tired of hearing about it but, it is pervasive. You may have something called “Election Stress Disorder”. According to a study by the American Psychological Association 1 in 4 people are negatively affected by the constant concern revolving around current and future America. One key is making a conscious decision as to what is good for us or harmful. Decide what it is you can control and or influence. Determine what you have no control over but, may have control over you. Cutting down on watching or listening to the news has done wonders for me. It’s too overwhelming and sends my anger and stress levels through the roof. Some do choose to tune it out but for many of us it’s become an addiction. I’m waiting for an “All Trump Channel” to arrive any day now.  Anger is a normal emotion. Don’t beat yourself up for having it. Instead seek out ways to manage anger. Not just for yourself. The people we love can be infected or inherited by our misguided actions when our stress is out of control. We don’t need to pass our rage to our children. Even when we think we are hiding it, others sense it on some level. Let’s face it, there is way too much distress and negative reactions to it in the world. Effective tools to manage the stress and anger •	Be aware of your anger triggers •	Share your angst with someone you trust. There is no shame in that. •	Scream into a pillow or roll up the windows in your car and scream •	Yoga, prayer or meditation. Even 5 minutes of meditation can be very soothing. •	Journaling can be very effective. Sometimes I write an angry letter to someone, leaving nothing out and then rip it up or burn it. •	Deliberate deep breathing with eyes closed. Concentrate lightly on breathing and the negative thoughts take at least a temporary backseat and lowered stress. •	Exercise of course. Even a short walk is great. Leave your technology at home. •	Spend a few minutes with your pet and soak up that unconditional love. •	Listen to your favorite uplifting music  If you are like me, I forget my tools when I need them the most. That is why I keep them on a small card in my wallet and can pull it out when I am agitated. Keep in mind that anger turned inward can result in depression and disease. I wish you only the best that emotional health can offer.You may have something called “Election Stress Disorder”. According to a study by the American Psychological Association 1 in 4 people are negatively affected by the constant concern revolving around current and future America.

One key to anger management is making a conscious decision as to what is good for us or harmful.

  • Decide what it is you can control and or influence.
  • Determine what you have no control over but, may have control over you.
  • Cutting down on watching or listening to the news has done wonders for me.

It’s too overwhelming and sends my anger and stress levels through the roof.

Some do choose to tune it out but for many of us it’s become an addiction. I’m waiting for an “All Trump Channel” to arrive any day now.

Anger is a normal emotion.

Don’t beat yourself up for having it. Instead seek out ways to manage anger. Not just for yourself. The people we love can be infected or inherited by our misguided actions when our stress is out of control. We don’t need to pass our rage to our children. Even when we think we are hiding it, others sense it on some level. Let’s face it, there is way too much distress and negative reactions to it in the world.

Effective tools to manage the stress and anger

  • Be aware of your anger triggers
  • Share your angst with someone you trust. There is no shame in that.
  • Scream into a pillow or roll up the windows in your car and scream
  • Yoga, prayer or meditation. Even 5 minutes of meditation can be very soothing.
  • Journaling can be very effective. Sometimes I write an angry letter to someone, leaving nothing out and then rip it up or burn it.
  • Deliberate deep breathing with eyes closed. Concentrate lightly on breathing and the negative thoughts take at least a temporary backseat and lowered stress.
  • Exercise of course. Even a short walk is great. Leave your technology at home.
  • Spend a few minutes with your pet and soak up that unconditional love.
  • Listen to your favorite uplifting music

If you are like me, I forget my tools when I need them the most. That is why I keep them on a small card in my wallet and can pull it out when I am agitated.

Keep in mind that anger turned inward can result in depression and disease.

I wish you only the best that emotional health can offer.

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